Recently, a journalist had reached out to therapists asking them for their top tips on how to banish toxic thoughts.
She had asked, for 2019, the top thoughts to banish and never think of again.
The problem? Banishing thoughts DOESN’T WORK!
From an acceptance and commitment therapy perspective, it’s actually a lot more useful to focus on allowing these thoughts to happen rather than banishing them.
You can let them pass you by, and come up with something that may feel more helpful, but telling a thought to STOP is like getting into a finger trap. The more and more you pull away, the tighter and tighter the thought holds on.
When you fight a thought, you’re giving that thought so much more power than it actually has.Read More