Setting Your Intention
For these past six weeks, we've been building mindfulness skills to help with your focus, awareness, and clarity, along with engaging in how to help your child or teen incorporate more mindfulness into their day to today life as well. As discussed, the best way to teach your child is through demonstration and modeling of healthy behaviors.
So, ask yourself, how do you want to come across to others?
I was talking with a friend recently. She let me know that she used to be very surprised when she had coworkers tell her that she was such a calm person. She was sure that her anxiety came across to everyone, in every interaction. But the more she explored it, the more she realized that she wasn't just coming across as a calm and composed person on accident. Her intention was to be a calm presence to those around her, to listen to them, and to give them space to talk.
People around us pick up our intentions.
So, for today... how do you want to come across to others?
What was your purpose in picking up this mindfulness practice? Was it to practice anxiety management through meditation? Were you looking for tools to help your child with their anger?
Figure out what the root of this was. And, while we can't change people around us - and we can't change what our children do or don't do - we can demonstrate healthy listening and coping skills for them.
Sit for a moment and see if you can distill this intention into a few words.
And for today's practice, I want you to use these one or two words to stay focused.
For me, I like to think the word "calm," and notice how it helps me to center.
Others have a mantra such as "I am strong," or, "Be here now."
This week, practice your mindfulness through a few five-minute sessions of sitting, breathing, and considering your intention. And go ahead, right now, and set a few times each week to continue to practice mindfulness in your everyday life.
Remember why you started!
If you'd like to know more about how mindfulness can help with anxiety and anger management, you may contact Kelsey at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a free 15-minute phone consultation. Kelsey is a licensed clinical social worker in the St. Louis area. Her practice, Compassionate Counseling St. Louis, is located in Webster Groves, Missouri.