Anger management for kids.
You worry about your child’s anger management, blow ups, and temper tantrums. Small things set them off, and they seem so overwhelmed when things don’t go their way.
When your phone rings, you get a sick feeling in the bottom of your stomach because you know it's their school, calling again. Whenever you put in the effort to try to help your kid calm down or focus, they get defensive and angry with you. They say it's your fault that they're acting this way, or their teacher's fault that they're getting in trouble, or their classmates' problems. Sometimes you wonder if they like getting angry - but most of the time you recognize their anger and stress seems pretty uncomfortable for them, too.
That anger could be masking something.
And it's not that you're a terrible parent (no matter what that little voice in your head is saying).
Working for years in education and special-education settings, I found that a lot of the kids being referred to me for anger management were instead dealing with stress, overwhelm, anxiety, grief, and even trauma.
Parents often feel like it's their fault that their kids have trouble at home or school. Maybe you, too, feel like you're at the end of the rope, and you're not sure what to do next. You've read parenting books, you've attended classes, and somehow, it's still not enough.
There’s usually something underneath the anger - like anxiety.
And we work with those “classic” signs of anxiety, like shyness and perfectionism, along with those less clear signs, like temper tantrums and overwhelmed over-responses.
I know firsthand how important it is for kids with anger and anxiety to feel like they have someone on their side, no matter what. Along with building emotional regulation skills, I collaborate with you to find the ways you can best support their growth.
And, if your kid is just physically prone to anger for some other reason - I can work with that, too! I will develop a plan that uniquely fits your unique kid, so that they have the skills they need today and in the future to grow into a confident, successful adult.
You're already doing something right, just by looking for more information.
Contact me to find out more about my approach to working with angry and anxious kids, any tips or tools I can provide, and information on next steps you can take.
I look forward to talking soon!